What bores you?

What bores you?

I seem to get bored with shallow, surface-level discussions, rigid hierarchies, and systems that lack depth, nuance, or emotional intelligence. I also lose interest in ideas that prioritize control over curiosity, conformity over critical thinking, and performative activism over genuine systemic change.

I struggle in academia because so much of it prioritizes control over curiosity, conformity over critical thinking, and performative activism over genuine systemic change. Instead of fostering open exploration, many academic spaces reward those who simply memorize and regurgitate accepted theories rather than challenge them. Critical engagement is often discouraged when it disrupts institutional norms, and the pressure to conform to existing frameworks stifles innovation. Even in spaces that claim to push for progress, there’s a performative nature—where signaling the right beliefs matters more than actually dismantling harmful systems. I crave knowledge that is alive, evolving, and transformative, but too often, academia feels like a machine designed to maintain intellectual gatekeeping rather than cultivate true understanding.

Dating men often feels like a similar struggle to academia—so many of them prioritize control over curiosity, conformity over critical thinking, and performative progressiveness over genuine growth. Just like in academic spaces, where challenging the status quo is often met with resistance rather than engagement, many men seem more invested in maintaining a comfortable narrative about themselves than in true introspection. They recite the right words, signal emotional awareness, or claim to value depth, but when faced with real vulnerability or complexity, they default to defensiveness or disengagement. I crave connection that is alive, evolving, and transformative, but too often, dating feels like navigating yet another institution where the unspoken expectation is to accept things as they are rather than push toward something better.

In my dating life, I get bored with men who lack depth, emotional intelligence, or the ability to engage in meaningful, self-aware conversation. Performative masculinity, inconsistency, and emotional avoidance don’t hold my interest for long. I value authenticity, introspection, and genuine connection over surface-level attraction or societal expectations in relationships.